I’m working on getting a high def/high zoom video camera this week before I leave for Prague. I’ll be pretty busy during the month and a half that I’m out there (early June-mid July), but I’ve got a buddy living there now and we will definitely set aside some time to start filming infields.
Regardless, I’m not always hanging out with friends or out approaching with other wings, so I won’t be able to capture video footage of all of them. What I will work really hard on doing (when I don’t have someone to film) is at least recording the audio of my sets. This is easy enough to do with an iPhone and iPhone headphones (which come with a mic). All I need to do is use a voice-recording app (like this app or even Voice Memos) and leave my headphones hanging out the front of my shirt. Or you can just have your headphones plugged into your phone and hanging around your neck – as long as they’re near your mouth the iPhone mic will actually pickup the conversation between 2 people surprisingly well.
If you don’t want to invest in microphones or video cameras but still want to analyze your approaches, I highly reccomend recording your conversations with a pair of headphones that has a mic.
I posted this video because while I didn’t get her number, I had a solid approach where we built a connection and were vibing pretty well. For the entire set she had huge smile on her face and as you can probably hear, she was constantly giggling.
Now there are 2 ways girls with boyfriends generally turn you down.
- They simply tell you they have a boyfriend very early on in the interaction and eject themselves.
- Or they fail to mention their relationship status until you make it extremely clear what your intentions are, at which point she politely explains her situation and sometimes thanks you for approaching her.
The latter is what I call a ‘soft rejection.’ It starts happening a lot when you become good at your craft. Maybe she has a boyfriend and is loyal to her man, but if you push the right buttons and continue teasing/making interesting statements you will likely get soft rejections from time to time. Obviously the goal isn’t to waste time hitting on girls who are unavailable, but it’s inevitable to meet girls who are taken but who otherwise would go out with you. Keep plugging until you get a firm no, because you might be providing her (through a ballsy direct street approach) the excitement her boyfriend lacks.
The approach ended with her telling me that I made her day and I could tell she meant it. While that wasn’t my intention, it wasn’t a bad side effect either.